Text: What the fuck is the difference between friendship and romance? Things would make so much more sense if I knew…
I think of romance as something that happens in the moment, you know this minute I have a romantic feeling but the next hour I might not. These romantic feelings or situations occur when I’m with a (or several) friend(s).
I practice relationship anarchism and I don’t label my relationships besides from “friend” and “not friend”.
Relationship Anarchy (RA) questions the idea that love is a special, limited feeling which is real only when kept between two people at any given moment. It is possible to love more than one person — your relationship to one doesn’t diminish the relationships to the others. Don’t value and compare — appreciate each other! No one needs to be highlighted as a partner to make a relationship “real”. Every relationship stands on it’s own, a meeting between independent equals.
The idea that separating my love for the world into nice little boxes rather than just exploring the expectations of the interactions with the beautiful people that make my life unique (whether they be “romantic”, “sexual”, “friends”, “family” or some mixture thereof) has always been a perplexing one. I will be looking more into this term as time goes on.
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no. you are perfectly capable of loving two people at the same time. shut up, Johnny. this is only time I would ever disagree with you.
this is fucking ridiculous.
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If you have two friends, un-friend the first one because if ey really was a good friend you wouldn’t have gotten the second.
(via who-let-the-nerds-out)
I’m sorry I know I don’t know details about this secret and what’s going on exactly but I think this right here is bull.
the comment… your comment on this.. im not sure what to say. i was reblogging because i agree - i’m attracted to other people, i find other people attractive - doesn’t mean i love you any less. you’re the best thing ever, i’ll love you forever, but that doesn’t mean i won’t ever like another person again.
Call me old fashioned but I have a hard time understanding that because I feel when you’re in a relationship with someone you shouldn’t like anyone else…shouldn’t want anyone else other than the person you’re with. It makes things complicated and messy and possibly painful even if nothing happens with the other person. Regardless of how much you say you love me saying that you like someone else puts doubts in my head. I don’t like anyone else; I don’t want anyone else and I don’t think about anyone else in that way. The fact that you do makes me doubt your commitment, even if only a little. I just really don’t think it’s right but it’s nothing I can change so it’s just something I deal with.
I completely agree ^^ that’s Terrible to not give the person you love your all. They deserve it, what they do not deserve is you telling them you still look at others and get attracted to them. That’s bull shit.
Well I’ve never understood people who get more than one child - wasn’t the first one good enough for you? But just because I don’t understand how they reason doesn’t mean I write blog posts saying what they feel is bullshit.
You can’t understand everything, because we live so different lives.
Because unconditional love for your offspring is SO the same as the romantic love for another adult.
Don’t compare the different types of love like that. It’s almost insulting.
Then don’t compare anyone else’s feelings to what you are feeling, don’t expect others to express them the same way you are - that is insulting too.
*more than one* I can have whoever I want, fuck you.
But I don’t want to have a person for myself, that’s weird and selfish :/ People aren’t objects, you can’t own them.
(via fuckyeahpolyamory)
Hey, I see the relationship anarchy symbol!
Good luck, mate!
